Ever wanted to be a ring bearer, but didn’t quite know how to pull of the right combination of duty, whimsey, and cuteness? Sumer and Jody’s Ring Bearer has it down:

Tip #1: Make a dignified entrance.

Tip #2: Find out where you’re supposed to go during the ceremony. And if you sit in the wrong place, at least be cute about it.

Tip #3: Bow your head when everyone prays.

Tip #4: Pay attention during the ceremony.

Tip #5: When they kiss, applaud enthusiastically. Even if kissing is gross.

Tip #6: When it’s over, make a quick getaway.