Rituals. There is so much talk now about the ridiculous Vogue article suggesting that modern brides ditch wedding rituals like cutting the cake, taking a honeymoon, tossing the bouquet, or even wearing a wedding ring. Sure, you don’t NEED any of those things to get married. Yep, you could wear jeans down to the courthouse, exchange matching tattoos rather than rings, and honeymoon in front of your TV at home, and you’d still be married. But rituals like those in weddings serve a purpose. They help us, whether we are the bride and groom or guests, focus on WHY we’re there. So many of these traditions have meaning. They symbolize things like starting a new chapter together, or creating a family, or the importance of the promise that you make to each other. They help us focus and celebrate.
And different religions, cultures, and even families have different traditions. You can even combine them or create your own. And that’s kind of what Emily and Nima did. They combined some Persian traditions with western traditions to create a wedding that was unique and beautiful. And oh, how I love the Persian traditions they incorporated. It was a lighthearted, fun, and yes, symbolic ceremony, and I have to say I loved every minute of it.
You might remember from yesterday’s post that Emily and Nima got married at the Fabulous Fox Theater. Such a perfect, perfect setting.
During the ceremony, Emily and Nima were seated at a table, which is filled with symbolic items.
The most important element is the mirror and candlesticks. The mirror symbolizes eternity, and the fire represents passion and the brightness of their future. Traditionally, the bride would enter wearing a veil, and the veil would be lifted when she is seated, so they see each other for the first time in the mirror. Both the mirror and candlesticks become part of the couple’s home to remember the ceremony.
There are beautifully decorated eggs, and nuts which are painted gold, to represent fertility.
Then there is rock candy, to celebrate sweetness in the couple’s life.
The pomegranates and apples show a fruitful and joyous future.
These spices, besides being pretty to look at, represent the spice of life.
There is also a book of significance to the couple. Depending on the couple’s religion, it might be a quran, bible, book of poetry, or any book that is important to the couple. And it is generally open to a verse on marriage or love.
The ceremony itself was so wonderfully lighthearted and fun! At one point a canopy is held over the bride and groom, and family members take turns grinding two sugar cones together so that the sugar falls over the canopy, showering the couple in sweetness! I really loved this!
There were so many other wonderful elements of this ceremony, like presenting the bride with jewelry, reading vows, and lighting a candle. Oh, and they also each dip their little finger into a jar of honey to feed it to each other, to symbolize the sweetness and sustenance they will give throughout their lives. And then they kiss. Yay!
See, isn’t that awesome? You don’t HAVE to have traditions or rituals at your wedding, but I have to say I kinda love them. It can be such a lovely reminder of WHY we are all there in the first place. Not just for a day, but for lives together.
Come back tomorrow to see their spectacular reception!